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Episode #74 The Two Week Wait Challenge with Lindsay Fischer

This week on Financial Fluency, I am so excited to have my first ever returning guest, Lindsay Fischer! Lindsay is here to speak with us about her new book, The Two Week Wait Challenge, so you know what that means: this is a book club episode! The Two Week Wait Challenge is a book of daily self care for women hoping to conceive and dealing with the high stress (read: trauma) of the two weeks between possible conception and the first time they could possibly know for sure whether or not they are pregnant. Lindsay is in the midst of her fertility journey right now and provides this book as a balm to other women from someone who knows.

Our conversation also covers the true costs of IVF: mental, emotional, financial and physical, and the other options available for couples looking to have children in these times. Lindsay Fischer is a trauma-tested author who writes about her own experiences to help others feel less alone. A former English teacher and dance coach, a domestic violence survivor, and – now – a seemingly infertile Myrtle, she refuses to be silent about the things that change our lives. For her, those issues are domestic violence and infertility.

Quotes 

  • “[The Two Week Wait Challenge] is a way to feel good about yourself during a time when you probably don’t.” – Lindsay
  • “Trama is trauma, and for women who are given an infertility diagnosis, it is as stressful as getting a cancer or HIV diagnosis.” – Lindsay
  • “In this whole process, there’s disappointment, there’s heartbreak, and there’s frustration, especially when you are throwing the kind of money that you are at it because people assume it’s so expensive because it definitely works.” – Lindsay
  • “Adoption is not off the table, but the further we’ve gotten into looking at all of our financial options [for children], adoption is just as expensive.” -Lindsay
  • “I already feel like I’m mothering, I’m mothering that embryo.” -Lindsay

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Resources

Here are Lindsay’s Books:

The Two Week Wait Challenge: A Sassy Girl’s Guide to Surviving the TWW

The House on Sunset

Lindsay’s Website


lindsay-fisherLindsay Fischer is a trauma-tested author who writes about her own experiences to help others feel less alone. A former English teacher and dance coach, a domestic violence survivor, and – now – a seemingly infertile Myrtle, she refuses to be silent about the things that change our lives. For her, those issues are domestic violence and infertility.

To connect with Lindsay, check out her website, her Facebook page, her Twitter, and her Instagram.

Episode #67 Your Freelance Lifestyle with Emma Cossey

Today I am excited to interview Emma Cossey. Emma is a life and career coach for UK freelancers. She specialises in work/life balance, overcoming confidence issues, business growth and getting rid of limiting beliefs. She blogs and podcasts about freelancing, working from home and being self-employed, as well as offering online courses for freelancers to up their game.

In our conversation, we cover the unique challenges that come up for women in the workplace and all the reasons someone might decide to pursue freelancing as a career. We also cover Emma’s suggestions for women considering pregnancy and how to prepare for maternity as a freelancer.

Quotes

  • “Like many freelancers, I fell into it accidentally.” -Emma
  • “For new freelancers it can be really overwhelming, and there’s not a lot of clear advice on how to get started.” – Emma
  • “You don’t want to be working so hard that you’re on your phone the whole time that you are with your child.” -Emma
  • “One of the things they said when I worked in sales was ‘Under promise, over deliver!’ and I would suggest doing that to yourself.” – Emma
  • “You learn, as a mom, to constantly adapt.” -Emma
  • “I feel like more and more fathers are standing up and saying, ‘We need a little paternity leave too!’” – Jen
  • “If you are planning to have a family, don’t wait until your pregnancy to save up.” – Emma
  • “A lot of families that go bankrupt in the US because of medical expenses.” – Jen
  • “Don’t clean or tidy when your kids are asleep, if you can, because that’s the best time for you to get your work done.” -Emma

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Resources

The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much?

Sweden’s Shorter Working Days

Parkinson’s Law of Triviality 

Eat That Frog – Brian Tracy


image1Emma is a life and career coach for UK freelancers. She specialises in work/life balance, overcoming confidence issues, business growth and getting rid of limiting beliefs. She blogs and podcasts about freelancing, working from home and being self-employed, as well as offering online courses for freelancers to up their game. She’s also mum to energetic toddler Oscar and wife to Peter.
She can be found over at www.freelancelifestyle.co.uk, can be found on Twitter @freelance_life or @emma_cossey, and if you sign up to her newsletter (www.freelancelifestyle.co.uk/newsletter) you’ll get access to her Facebook group for UK freelancers and a bundle of other freebies including her ebook ‘How To Break The Freelance Feast Or Famine Cycle’.

Episode #66 Equality Pays with Michelle Gyimah

Today I have the very lovely Michelle Gyimah with me on Financial Fluency. Michelle is a tech gender equality consultant, a tech startup improver, trainer, and speaker. She worked for over six years at the Equality and Human Rights Commission in the UK, helping employers work within the bounds of equality law, especially in regards to maternity leave. In the midst of her own maternity leave, she decided that she wanted to strike out on her own and provide consulting for businesses and employees as an entrepreneur.

In our discussion, we cover in depth the feelings of vulnerability and fear that women encounter when revealing their pregnancy to their employer. We talk about how women might choose to become self-employed because of how their employers treat them around pregnancy and child care. We talk about how startups can provide a safe and comfortable culture for women.

Quotes

  • “Even though my employer was quite amazing, when I was pregnant I had this sense of vulnerability, thinking ‘I hope I’m able to keep my job because I really need to keep it.’” – Michelle
  • “Even though the legislation in the UK and the US is on polar opposite ends of scale in terms of leave, many of the social issues are the same.” – Michelle
  • “Even if you can take 12 weeks of unpaid leave, what if you can’t take 12 weeks of unpaid leave? What if you need the money?” – Jen
  • “The message is you can have a career if you don’t have a baby, which is wrong.” – Michelle
  • “It’s like we’re telling women from a young age that they can be anything, but as soon as they decide they want to have a family we’re like ‘Oooh, we forgot to tell you, you can’t mix the two.” – Michelle
  • “It’s only a short amount of time that you are going to have a young family that’s going to depend on you in terms of time. That’s a very limited way of looking at people.” – Michelle
  • “[In startup culture], we want to view women as more than consumers, we want to view them as creators too. Women need to feel safe, valued and wanted. It’s not just a boys club for start-ups.” – Michelle
 To connect with Michelle and learn more about her advice for employers and employees alike, check her out on LinkedIn and at www.equalitypays.co.uk.

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michelle2Michelle is a tech gender equality consultant, startup improver, inclusive business builder, speaker, and trainer.

She’s passionate about working with tech companies (whatever their size) to help them improve their gender diversity, specifically how to attract and keep female staff and working mothers and how to save their organization money by not ending up in employment tribunal.

Through customized company assessments she can identify problem areas and produce a customized plan of action that will dramatically improve your gender diversity and your return on investment.

She’s dedicated to partnering with UK and US Women in Tech thought-leaders to mainstream the improvement of gender diversity in tech.